TED in Bed: A take home

By, Lauren Lee Anderson

TEDxSF speaker Mel Robbins –the bold, blonde, ambitious woman that stormed our stage on June 4th, spoke as mother, lawyer, syndicated radio talk-show host, and relationship coach about what it takes to live our best lives and be who we’re supposed to be. What is it exactly that we want, she challenged, and what exactly are we doing, or failing to do, to get there?

For starts, she claims with verve and unapologetic enthusiasm that you’re not okay if you’re fine. It’s just simply not fine to describe your life, this very auspicious state of existence, as fine. And here’s why:

Every single one of us falls into a category of 1: 400,000,000,000. That’s one in four-hundred-trillion. According to Mel, this is the probability of our being born. It’s a category and a qualification. “You’re not fine. You’re fantastic. You have life-changing ideas for a reason.” Somehow, you beat the odds. That makes our livelihoods extremely and undeniably lucky.

And blessed. Because it happens over and over again when each new day, we wake up born again this human being.  You’re not just one-in-a-million, you’re one-in-four-hundred-trillion. Not bad, you. That said, today is for the chosen ones.

So, how important is our attitude toward this statistic and how we embrace our human-ness? Lucky or blessed, for example, are two matters of perspective. The former infers accidental experience while ‘blessed’ implies a certain ownership and gratitude toward the happenings of our lives. If you haven’t seen Louie Schwartzberg’s film on gratitude that screened at ALIVE!, take ten minutes out now.

It’s a very reasonable argument that our attitude can largely shape the outcome of our experiences. It rains on the good and bad alike and we are surely more than the recipients and victims of mere chance. Ken Robinson, the outspoken vanguard of education reform looks at the idea of luck as a powerful way of illustrating the importance of our basic attitudes in affecting whether or not we get what we’re looking for. He believes, “Its not what happens to us that makes the difference in our lives. What makes the difference is our attitude toward what happens.”

Essentially, we possess huge potential to shape and manifest our opportunities. But, we must be active investors. The perfect first step? Wake up thirty minutes early.

Mel’s philosophy follows that the activation energy required to do the things we want to do is the same thing as pushing yourself out of bed and into the cold room on the other side of the sheets just thirty minutes early. “Parent yourself, make yourself do the crap you don’t want to do so you can be everything your supposed to be. Marry your actions with your impulses within five seconds.” Most of us are already severely sleep-deprived, so it’s not as easy as it sounds.

Ready to mostly heed Mel’s call-to-action and inspired by Tom Foremski, I’ve resolved to wake up a comparable eighteen minutes early. I’m going to wake up each morning in bed with TED!  This TED won’t quite satisfy Nicole Daedone’s orgasmic fifteen-minute meditation for me, but waking up with TED does stimulate something else. Curiosity. Wonder. Affirmation in the power of ideas and a steadfast determination to begin the day cultivating and actualizing them.

I’m an early riser to begin with and I don’t adhere to a routine but last night I set my alarm for eighteen minutes shy of when I thought I wanted/needed to be getting up.

A phenomenal thing happened. I woke up. Not that I was that surprised. I’ve only woken up to a total of 9,939 consecutive new days. The extraordinary thing about this morning is that I woke up exactly eighteen minutes before my alarm was supposed to go off. So technically, I came in this morning beating the most extraordinary and incomprehensible odds, thirty-six minutes early and time enough for TWO sessions with my new boyfriend TED.

As Nicki Minaj would say, “No I’m not lucky, I’m blessed, yes.”

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